Divorce decisions usually keep individual’s mind and thought process uncontrollable. Many turn to friends and family to discuss their feelings resulting from the divorce process. The problem that may occur is that when attempting to process these emotions by discussing them with family and friends, the advice they give may be biased toward you because they love you and don’t want to see you hurt. This may not be wise if considering the entire equation. Another problem that may arise is friends and loved ones often get annoyed by the same story told in a different manner every other day. It is healthy to discuss your feelings about divorce, your future and how you are coping. Journaling could be the solution to processing your feelings rather than relying on family and friends. Journaling may be viewed as insignificant because there is no feedback, but to many individuals it is a life altering tool that once the divorce is final, journaling never stops as it may become a therapeutic tool to aid mentally throughout life. In order to use journaling as a tool to process your feelings, you must define what it is and the benefits of using this tool during and after the divorce process.
Journaling is the art of writing that explores your feelings and thoughts about certain events, in this case, your divorce. It is equivalent to what you would tell your friends and family but there is no feedback. Often the repetition of telling your story is a means of processing what is occurring in your life and venting your emotions is a way to adapt to the events in a healthy manner. Exploring healthy means of processing events is necessary through transitions of life as it is unhealthy when someone allows emotions to be bottled inside until they explode with emotions because they did not process them along the way.
Journaling allows exploration of events which have evoked emotions. Writing about your feelings rather than verbalizing your thoughts and contemplating by brainstorming how you will handle life events may be accomplished by daily journaling.
A journal can be any notebook or a special book specifically labeled Journal. Many find it helpful to keep their journal with them at all times and when they encounter an event that evokes much intensity they may use their journal to process the event.
The positive aspects of journaling:
So, begin a healthy process of handling your thoughts and emotions. Do not have another restless night worrying about the events of the day. Write in your journal and when you close the journal this then signals that this closes your mind. You can think about it again when it is journaling time but not until.
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