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Controlling emotions for parents during divorceDivorce can be one of the most stressful events faced in life. Emotions often wreak havoc from the hurt and disappointment resulting from divorce and life adjustments which affect all family members may create even more stress. Emotions such as anger, guilt, and even a feeling of revenge may be experienced during the grief process. Although divorce is stressful, it’s often how a person effectively handles the emotional aspect of divorce that determines many factors even the financial aspects relating to divorce.

When beginning the thought provoking aspects of the divorce process and making decisions that will impact one’s current life as well as the future, an individual must learn to separate the emotional aspects from the business aspects. The ability to separate the two not only assists in one’s ability to rationalize divorce decisions but also minimizes the financial expenses of divorce. One thought to keep in the forefront when meeting with divorce processionals is that divorce professionals are experts in their prospective fields but becoming aware of their expertise and personal experience is imperative. When entering the legal arena, the processing of emotions is usually displayed in the form of “telling one’s story” concerning every aspect of divorce. In the initial divorce professional meeting, it is not unusual for the spouse not desiring the divorce to display emotions and tell how he/she first learned that something was wrong in the marital relationship, learning of signs that caused anxiety and how the conclusion to divorce was formally introduced by their spouse. Releasing pent up emotions and telling one’s story can be therapeutic, as it aids in insight and allows one to emotionally and psychologically process what he/she is currently experiencing and mentally prepare for the changes that lie ahead.

Telling one’s story is often ongoing through each phase of the divorce process. Each phase requires additional changes to occur that evokes emotions and often uncertainty, thus the art of continuing one’s ongoing emotional story continues. This ongoing process occurs but when conducted during professional appointments, may not be in one’s best interest. Appointments are usually scheduled for a fixed amount of time and an agenda attached. When the goals for the scheduled appointment are not met or the schedule exceeds that allotted time, additional fees are usually incurred and additional appointments must be scheduled to meet those goals.

When attending a divorce appointment, form a mindset to meet the scheduled goals for the appointment and after the appointment, take the time to process what was discussed during the appointment and the emotions attached to the outcome. This will assist to actively stay on task for the divorce proceeding and also minimize additional expense of telling one’s story in the agenda focused appointment that is attached to financial expense.

Divorce Tool Box understands that divorce evokes many emotions that equates with telling one’s story. Taking time from a scheduled appointment to reiterate your emotional story may create additional financial burdens. If you are facing divorce, make sure that you stay in control of the divorce appointment as well as your emotions as you actively proceed through the divorce path.  Visit our website today at www.DivorceToolBox.com to see how we can help you through this process.

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